Healing through balancing masculine and feminine energies

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The last couple months have been calling me to find more balance. One of the ways this came through was in balancing the masculine and feminine energies.

For a long time, I shied away from these terms of masculinity and femininity. I had a bit of an aversion to them. I now know this was because I had an aversion to how masculinity and femininity were represented within my culture. I had to recognize this in order to begin to heal my own imbalances of masculine and feminine energy within me.

Let’s rewind about five years. As I was walking down my path of healing and spiritual growth, I began to accept that both masculine and feminine energies were important and necessary for balance.

At first the acceptance was mental. Like, “Yes, I get it, masculine and feminine qualities balance each other. That makes sense.” I read what people defined as masculine and feminine, yet I still had hang-ups on why each of their characteristics had to be attributed to either the masculine or feminine.

I didn’t like thinking that some qualities were inherently female while others were male. I was actually hung up on a power imbalance that I had witnessed between males and females in society.

Over time I realized masculine and feminine energies have nothing to do with male or female or power imbalances. It is simply energy.

Fast forward to the recent past: Once I realized that there is inherently an equal amount of power in both masculine and feminine energy, I was able to balance them more in my own life.

What really helped me was the following exercise: I began writing down what femininity and masculinity were, and what they weren’t.
What is femininity? Intuitive, soft, subtle, passive, receptive, nurturing…

What femininity is not: Manipulation, submission, temptress, meek, weak, powerless….

What is masculinity? Logic, focused, outward direction, active, boundaries…

What masculinity is not: Rigidity, power over someone, aggression, control over others, anger…
I looked on google images to get some adjectives to help me define what feminine and masculine energies were. Then I thought about it. Anything that came up that was less than loving, went in the ‘what masculinity/femininity is not’ definitions.

My definitions were much longer, and I spent about a week filling them in, but I wanted to share some examples here of what came up for me when I was exploring the topic in case you would like to do the same.

And the result? My definitions of masculinity and femininity and how I see their characteristics within myself and others don’t feel like such a weight anymore. They are clear, and I accept them. It simply feels better.

I’m not sure how yet, but I feel this is already helping me feel more balanced as a person, and I think it’s going to help my business too. I’ll keep you updated.

In love, light, and bliss,


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