Healing Stories: DS found acceptance through unexpected means

Sometimes answers come through ways we don’t expect, but they teach us exactly how to accept what is.

At the beginning of the session, DS was feeling resistance around a client call she had that evening. She felt she owed it to her business to offer that these clients continue to work with her, yet she also felt resistance.

Through talking about it, she realized that would only feel good if continuing to work together would be something that would help them. She was doubting if that was the case because of the lack of feedback she was getting.

“How do you want to feel about your work and clients?” She wanted to feel confident and of service. Right now she felt like the sessions could just end and ask the couple for a review – that would be the easy option. 

I guided her inward. 

The first thing that happened was she saw her paternal grandfather and maternal grandmother – the sources of her physical creation. This image brought up the feeling of a fight or resistance. Then she saw a person coming up, surrounded in gold light. She saw Mother Mary and Baby Jesus. The energy was beautiful, but she had a big mental resistance to seeing them because of negative connotations with Christianity. 

We asked that DS be able to look at the images she saw through neutral eyes and notice just their energy while healing any negative energy of guilt and shame that have been associated with Mary and Jesus and the church. The energy expanded, and the image faded.

Next she saw a gorilla on a piece of ice, floating in the sea. It had a bucket in its hands. It was throwing food to the fish. There were people on the shore trying to get the gorilla to go with them, but it didn’t want to.  She couldn’t place how the gorilla was feeling. She asked it, and it said it wanted to be left alone. It said it felt lost and didn’t know how it got to the arctic and not in the jungle. 

We asked the gorilla where it wanted to be. It said it wanted to be back in the playground. All the sudden it was on a playground, and it shrank into a toy gorilla. There was a kid running around with it in his hand. The gorilla felt much calmer here. It could close its eyes. It felt at peace. This was weird to her because the kid was running around wildly with it, yet she could feel the inner peace. 

She noticed she felt the ‘need’ to get a lesson from this image. She heard a voice, “It doesn’t have to mean anything. Just let it go and let it be.” 

She felt strong and sat with that feeling for a while. The feeling of being strong. What does it mean? Other images came through, but she couldn’t remember the details. 

The takeaway from the session today was in regards to her client call tonight: “Let it go and let be.”

And acceptance happened.

Healing stories: Feeling intuitive ‘pings’ with MS

At the beginning of this session, MS talked about feeling much more confident regarding when her intuition is talking vs her mind, especially when it has to do with work, her spiritual path and/or romantic relationships.

“When I get the pings, I can identify them easier,” she said. She felt that last time her ‘lower self’ didn’t come through because she was empowered by the higher self. There was no chance for negative thoughts to come in because there simply wasn’t space when she was fully occupying her body.

I guided her into the session. Immediately a feeling of trust came through her whole body. She saw a lot of purple and felt it in between her eyes.

Her heart felt heavy – she described it as a surface level sensation. The feeling didn’t feel like it was hers. I guided her to imagine shrinking down into a tiny version of herself, and she imagined jumping into her chest.

It felt like the heaviness was sitting on the surface. Her intuition showed her a mirror, and it felt like she was magnifying something/one else’s energy. She wanted to let it go. She felt like a cord needed to be cut.

What came up was, “Boundaries – energetic boundaries – between compassion and slipping into unworthiness of being needed.” “There is a difference between listening and being there for others and taking on their energy.” She realized she had been allowing others’ emotions in, instead of holding space for them and letting their energy pass through. 

Her intuition guided her, “Everyday at the end of the day, shed that energy – whether it’s through visualization or physically shaking it off.” She already felt the weight on her chest minimizing. 

Then she felt swirling sensations of energy flowing through her body. She allowed it to exist without fear this time (as opposed to other times when she had felt it by herself). 

“Exploration, inspiration, curiosity,” came up. She felt an openness to possibilities in terms of career and contribution. Her mind is limiting when she thinks about these things – her “higher self” was telling her now to explore more. “It’s a very expansive energy,” she said. She noted there was a lot more out there than her mind is capable of thinking. 

She was guided to ask a lot of questions about/to the people that would come into her life over the next few months. 

Then she felt limitless expansive energy connecting her with the universe. 

She felt a nurturing curiosity, and saw an image of herself as a child. She asked the child if it had something it wanted to say. It told her to, “Not be afraid to play and explore and do the things that bring me joy in maybe an unexpected place. I don’t have to conform to norms and the social construct right now. If I’m feeling urges to sing or chant outside, I need to allow myself to do that. It’s not weird.”

“I think there’s a lot that I need to express.” “Inviting new experiences – my mind might feel inadequate,” because she said hadn’t been inviting in new experiences freely since she was younger. 

She was recently gifted an instrument that came up in her head. She was guided to allow herself the grace to not be good at something in the beginning to be good at it later, trusting herself and her autonomy and all the lessons that come with learning. This would help her with the bigger picture of trust.

The child came back. She mentioned that at before the ages 7-8 she was exploring on her own and discovering likes and dislikes. After that she felt she was limited with parental guidance and figures. The world was too scary, so she was told to stay close.

Now that she was living abroad, she was finding that security and learning nothing bad was going to happen while she explored. 

“I’m ready to take smaller leaps into my curiosity. I’m not bad, and nothing bad is going to happen if I explore.” She saw an image of a lot of excitement and play (as opposed to fear). 

She then saw her inner child asking her for permission, but felt it was really her asking herself for permission. 

She explained that since our first session, she’s felt pings of wanting to explore followed by approval and need for permission. She noticed she had felt the need to share it with others beforehand. She now understood these ideas were on a soul level, and she did not need permission. 

She realized how much permission had affected other areas of her life. She felt like she had fully granted herself permission to follow herself. She also felt like something will come up in the next couple weeks. 

Then she mentioned she’d been getting premonitions in her dreams. She felt like she was still closing chapters from last year. She believed she would get her new year energy in the next few weeks. There would be a lot of movement related to her career, and she needed to be ready. 

Then she felt energy flowing in her body and a grounding force in the base of her spine and her hands connecting her with the earth. She also felt a connection upwards through her head. It “feels like power and it’s comfortable.” 

Her self prescribed homework: watching the sunset and shaking off others’ energy at the end of the day.

Healing Stories: The meaning of life with M

This was a session filled with insight and emotional release. Both of these things flowed through M with ease, almost effortlessly in her first session with me.

Here are the notes:

I guided her into the session. The first thing she noticed was that her hands felt warm and she saw the color purple. She saw flashes of a mountain scene from a couple years ago. It made her feel excited. All of a sudden she felt hungry. 

Then she saw an ocean sunset at the beach. “I’m not a huge ocean person,” she said. But looking at the scene made her feel humble and small. She heard the words, “Let go.” It made her feel emotional, and she got teary. 

“It feels like more confusion than sadness,” she explained. She felt it in her heart and between her eyebrows. 

Next I had her imagine she could shrink down into a tiny holographic version of herself. She imagined going into her heart. Inside it looked foggy and gray. It felt like she doesn’t know which direction to go to get out of it. It looked the same all around.  

She sat and observed it for a bit. Then it felt windy with some sun peaking through. Immediately it cleared and she was back on the beach. She felt lighter. 

Next she saw green in her left eye. It was a dark, sage, forest green. Then she felt like a knot in her stomach released. She felt relaxed and self-assured all over. She heard the words, “It’s all good.” 

She became teary again. She felt it in her gut this time, and her fingertips were tingling. Sitting in the sensations she began to feel in control, grounded, free. She asked her gut if it had any messages for her. Then she saw lush rolling hills. She felt a sense of exploration and travel. 

Then a deck of tarot cards came into her mind.The cards said to let go of emotions that are dragging her down in order to get clarity to move forward. 

She was told, “Step away. Go outdoors, spend time outside.” She was already planning on going to Florida the following week  and was shown that the beach scenes will be like her refuge there. She realized she needed a work break and that she didn’t feel conscious of what she wanted. 

She could feel she needed to recharge. “What will help her do this?” I asked. The answer: new experiences, time with her partner, sunshine. 

She heard the words, “One step at a time.” “You’ll get there.” “Know you’re doing everything you can to take care of yourself.” 

We asked for anything else to come up for the day. She saw an exit sign flashing. It felt like a warning sign , shocking. She felt a sensation in her throat. She saw herself sitting next to the sign. She can put her hand on it but she can’t look at it. It felt annoying but not shameful. 

She said she would have felt more annoyed if she looked at it. Then she felt teary again. We explored what it would feel like if she looked or didn’t look at the sign. 

If she never looked at the sign, she would feel like she was missing something. If she did look at it, it would look like a whole different path. But it’s not the plan. It feels like there’s a better way.

“What would the best way for you look like?” I asked. Further on in the future, she saw extra support staff for her business and lots of time away. It felt far off from her current state. It felt exciting but she wants it to stay far away for now. 

She felt she has more growing to do and fun to have now before more responsibilities. 

Next she saw herself in space looking at the earth and seeing the reduce, reuse, recycle triangle in light blue spinning in front of the earth. She said it felt like a loop of lessons, and growth, and comfort over and over. This was occurring in present, past and future lives. 

She intuitively felt like it was saying “That’s what it’s all about.” The experience felt human and humbling. She heard, “Don’t take it so seriously. This is just a journey.” Then it faded out. 

Her takeaways: She was feeling “really content right now.” She was to reanalyze burnout and what she wants vs. what she needs. She was also told to release more emotions. She felt like she knew exactly what to do. 

How to Manifest Abundance

How to Manifest Abundance

Being abundant is your birthright. It is something we are all entitled to, and it is something we can all choose to be and feel. 

When I say abundance, I refer to an abundant flow of all that is good: relationships, emotions, career, friendships, and, of course, money. 

The abundance you welcome into your life is a reflection of your inner beliefs on what and how much you are worthy of those things. 

So how do you start to believe that you are worthy of all that is good?

You increase your belief in your personal value.

In this blog post, I share some easy ways to do just that so that you can begin to remember just how valuable you are in this world.

1. Create a valuable mantra and repeat it daily. Try these on for size: “I am overflowing with value.” “I am incredibly important.” “I am awesome and filled with infinite value.” “I am amazing and limitless.” The one that makes you feel most uncomfortable is probably the one you should repeat because you likely identify with it the least. Better yet, design your own awesomeness mantra.

2. Write down all the good things about you. Bust out your journal and start writing everything about you that is wonderful. Make sure to include your wins,  your lessons, and your personal characteristics. You can do this at the end of each day to celebrate yourself.

3. Begin to notice what you’re doing right. Whenever you notice negative or unproductive thoughts going on in your head around what you should/should’ve/could’ve done, change your inner dialogue. Begin noticing what you’re doing right. Are you breathing? Check. Does your body move? Check. Are you blinking? Check. Is your heart pumping? Check. Are you reading? Check. Are you spending time looking at something that was written with love? Check. That means you’re at least six things right, right now. You’re awesome. Recognize that.

Set a regular reminder in your phone to help you remember to practice. The more you practice these exercises, the more your belief in your own value will skyrocket and your abundance will match it.

The world deserves to see you shine. Shine on. 

Healing Stories with S: Letting go of stress and pressure around getting things done

‘Healing stories’ is a series of client journeys during intuitive healing sessions. In each of these journeys, the client is guided into a deep meditative state where we ask the intuition to come through. The intuition then guides them through these multi-sensory journeys to heal by bringing balance in mind, body, and energy. And the results? Beyond words.

At the beginning of our session, S was feeling really busy and pressured with work and all of her commitments. We decided to have a chat to go deeper.

Char: “Would you rather feel good about doing all the things you are doing or feel good doing less?”

S: “I would like to be happy doing less and saying no.”

Char: “Ideally, what would you feel like at the end of the week?”

S: In the moment, free from worry

Char: “Do you need the anxious feeling to stick to the schedules?”

S: “Yes.”

Char: “Is that true, or could that be a false belief?

S: “I’m not sure. When I have gaps in time I don’t do what I’m supposed to do so I generate the stress to stick to the schedule.”

Aha! Now we understood how the stress and pressure was serving her. There was a belief that it was driving her to get things done that she needed to do.

She mentioned that on Friday she can go at her own pace, and if it weren’t for a doctor’s appointment, she would’ve gotten nothing else done in the morning. Otherwise she would’ve been feeling lazy, going really slowly. It became clear that that’s when she feels in control.

Then a voice in her head said very clearly, “You wouldn’t get anything done without stress and pressure.”

And so we dove into a guided meditation and invited her intuition to guide her.

Starting out, the mind had ideas, plans, things to do, places to go. We thanked the mind for those ideas and asked that it remind her of them when she is ready to take loving action. We asked her mind to observe her intuition so they could work better together, more lovingly.

Then she heard a voice telling her to be in nature, somewhere green would be nice. She imagined being there. She watched black turn to green. Her mind stopped completely. She was shocked; there was no other noise.

Her intuition guided her to stretch her body and move her neck. She was told she needs a good stretch – yoga, a really good stretch. And a good hand and foot massage.

The intuition continued guiding her. “Make a plan with the boyfriend.” She was guided to ask him today what he’d like to do and arrange a time to connect so she doesn’t get upset that he’s unavailable.

More guidance came: “Think about the things I want to do, socially.” “There are specific plans at the moment, and I can arrange my time around that.” She was also instructed to leave gaps for herself around those plans. When I asked how that felt, she said it felt calmer.

Then she heard: “Things come up randomly, and I can’t say no.” When I asked whose voice it was, she said it’s hers and heard a friend’s voice as well. The friend is comfortable with saying no, and she’s similar to S in the sense that she has a lot going on. But the friend does what makes her feel good and says no to the rest.

The friend also has a trait that S would like. She convinces others to do what she wants. “But maybe I’m just very convincible,” pondered S. Then she realized, “I would like to convince others to do things that I want to do.”

“Can you do it?” I asked. “What would it take?”

The answer: To ask, or be willing to go by herself, and it doesn’t matter. That also gives her an opportunity to say no to everyone else’s plans when it doesn’t feel right.

The people she can ask to do things with her that she likes are not necessarily the same people that have other plans. If the people she asks don’t come, there will be more people coming into her life.

I asked if that felt doable. S replied confidently, “I have confidence in always meeting new people.”

The takeaways from her intuition: “Get a massage.” “A massage is not just treating your body, it’s also treating your mind and spirit.” “Do yoga.” And “Find something that’s for me. It’s not a social thing or to fit in. It’s just for me.”

So beautiful!!!

Healing Stories with H: Breaking through fear to find peace and calm

‘Healing stories’ is a series of client journeys during intuitive healing sessions. In each of these journeys, the protagonist is guided into a deep meditative state where we ask the intuition to come through. The intuition then guides them through these multi-sensory journeys to heal by bringing balance in mind, body, and energy. And the results? Beyond words.

I guided H to invite in her intuition. In the middle of the process, I felt a block in my left hand and was guided to guide her there. She brought her awareness to her left hand before we even finished bringing her intuition into the rest of her body. She felt heaviness in the wrist and left hand. We asked her intuition to open up the connection and flow there for release. We then finished bringing her intuition into the body.

First we went to the left shoulder. She saw a piece of paper there with a hole forming in the middle. It was being burnt from the inside out. We watched it burn, and I was guided to ask that all contracts based in energies less than love be revoked across all times, dimensions, spaces, and realities.

Then she started seeing metal objects in her mind’s eye. A bar turned into a satellite. She was not able to connect with any of them. It almost seems like a transformer. I asked her to ask her intuition if it felt best to connect with or to disconnect from the transformer. Disconnect was the answer.

I intuitively saw magnets above her and guided her to imagine them there. We asked that the magnets be set at a frequency to attract and draw out any energies that were less than love, any heavy metals, or any other substances that weren’t in line with her highest good. She felt a strong pull starting at the top of her body that went all the way down. She felt energy being sucked out and into the magnet. Once it was finished, we asked that light of love and higher fill up her body.

We then went back to the hand, which felt heavy. She saw herself in a hole. She was looking up and out and saw the sky. There was grass around the edges of a hole, like perhaps she was in a forest or a prairie. She felt sad there. I guided her to touch the sides of the hole and imagine love and acceptance flowing out of her hands. A staircase began to form and she began moving upwards.

There was a moment of turbulence, but it smoothed out again and she continued upward. She felt scared to get to the top. We invited the fear to come with her and sent it love and acceptance. When she got to the top of the hole, she realized she was in her favorite place in the whole world – an island near where she grew up. She felt peace and calm move through her body.

Then she felt pressure in her chest. It was fear with a bit of sadness and anxiety. She felt it was her own. Anxiety and the word “dying” came up. We asked for guidance. She placed her hands on the tight place in her chest filled with anxiety and imagined love and acceptance flowing there. Slowly, it all flowed down her arm and out her hand into the ground. We asked that every place in her body where she released be filled with energies in line with her highest good.

At the end of the session, H felt hugely relieved and peaceful in her entire body. She described it as a “breakthrough” and huge release of unconscious feelings.

Healing Stories: A personal experience with fear and intuition

These are session notes of my personal experience from a regular exchange session I do with my own coach, Denise Suarez. Denise is a parenting coach, and is an amazing space holder. She has helped me to go within and do incredible self-work and has been an integral part in my personal growth over the last year. 

At the beginning of our session, I talked about my progress in an ongoing process of releasing false responsibility in my relationships. I had made a big breakthrough and was feeling good, yet when I recounted the story, there was something that still felt icky.  

I was questioning the decisions I had made as I recalled the feelings of fear and discomfort that came up over the last few months. I realized I was feeling deceived by my intuition. Feeling tricked. I realized there was a (until now subconscious) part of me that was expecting that everything was going to be rainbows and unicorns when I followed my intuition, and I had been feeling deceived when it felt challenging or scary. 

Denise asked what I wanted to do. I felt guided to get to know these feelings better.

I asked myself what it would feel like to hold onto this feeling of deception. I felt a lot of tightness and pressure in the muscles in my chest and neck and a bit in the center of my forehead as well. I asked what it would feel like to let it go. 

I could feel the tightness go away in my forehead, and as it did, I saw a sliver of a luminous cloud scene. Something was keeping this scene from opening all the way. 

Denise asked me what was keeping it from opening. I looked at the sides of the scene and saw black, shadow-like hands holding on and keeping the cloud scene from opening wider. I imagined placing my own hands on the hands of fear. They dissolved into air. The cloud scene grew slightly wider. 

Now the beautiful cloud scene was being kept from opening by giant wooden posts – one on each side. They were filled with splinters, and as I reached out, splinters jumped into my hand. It had tried to scare me away. The posts said they were protecting me. “From what?” Denise asked. Answer: From pain. 

I thanked the posts and watched the splinters disintegrate into my hands, returning to light. I placed my hands on the posts, and posts began to splinter, falling into the ground. The cloud scene opened a bit further.

Inside the wooden posts were round, metal posts. The fear here felt like one of paralysis rather than force or aggression, like the previous shadow hands and wooden posts. They asked for understanding and company. I sat with them, and let them know I would stay with them. 

The posts dissolved into the ground, and what was left were two, stone bases in which the posts had been anchored. The stones were stuck in the ground, encapsulating more fear. I wasn’t sure what to do here, so I asked my intuition for guidance. It guided me to lay on the stones, chest down. 

On the first stone, I felt fears moving upward into my chest. It felt scary, but I kept going and watched the fears transmute into free flowing energy in my chest. I went over to the second stone. The fear began to come up, but then it stopped. 

I asked the stone what it needed. It said love. I caressed the stone with my hand and sent it love. It began to melt and transform. 

All of a sudden, what was left was a bunny in a beautiful green meadow with rolling hills. The beautiful clouds and sky were above, and the whole scene was fully visible now. The bunny began to hop around and ran away before eventually circling back to me. I asked if it needed anything, and it began to change shapes. This also frightened me, so I asked my intuition for guidance.

I held my hands out towards it and imagined projecting loving energy towards it. There were duplicates of my hands all around the shapeshifting creature, forming a circle and sending it up into the sky. A beam of light came down to meet it, and the creature took on the form of a dragon. 

It was simply blue light, in the outline of a dragon. The dragon flew around, moving into the sky, and into the earth. It was having fun. It said it was there to protect me. Having fun and allowing free motion was integral in this protection. It showed me, “Fear isn’t needed for protection, just fun, light, and love.” It told me it would come back whenever I called upon it. I felt lighter and more open and so relaxed.

Healing Stories with V: Accepting the death of a loved one and healing childhood wounds

This is the first entry of a new series that I’m calling “Healing Stories.” I will be sharing healing stories of clients (with permission) and of my own here. The aim of this series is to inspire courage within each of us to go within and heal through witnessing the courageous journeys of others that do the same.

In each of these journeys, the protagonist is guided into a deep meditative state where we ask the intuition to come through. The intuition then guides them through these multi-sensory journeys to heal by bringing balance in mind, body, and energy. And the results? Beyond words.

V was struggling because her close friend’s dad was in critical condition in the hospital due to Covid. She was trying to send healing and feeling very attached to the situation. It was really affecting her emotionally and energetically.

As we began the session, the first thing that came in for her was the word Peace. We asked peace to come in, in a column of light, and surround her body so that she could breathe it in with every breath. I then began a slow guided process of bringing in her own intuition as well as energies in line with her highest good down through her crown and into her body.

When we got to the arms, there was a lot of energy there. We kept our focus in the arms and hands for a while. It felt like channels needed to open up here to allow more flow in and out. Suddenly, energy began surging through her hands. She said it felt like a release for her heart.

We continued down through the body until we reached the lower belly. Here there was a strong energy again and we were guided to place attention in her ovaries and uterus. She watched in her mind’s eye as it turned into a beautiful, peaceful garden. The Garden of Eden appeared to me intuitively – a garden of physical creation. She imagined sitting down by a stream with her feet in the water.

She allowed the water to flow up through her feet and her entire body. It was a beautiful, calm feeling as the water cleansed her whole body. We asked that it cleanse the energy and the physical body to open her up to more connection and presence on earth. We were then guided to her sacrum and tailbone.

In the sacrum, we asked that a grounding cord connect her energy with the center of the earth, connecting her physically on the earth in the best way for her. It felt as if there were other people trying to connect into her grounding cord. We asked that those be removed and that grounding cord copies to anyone that needed them.

She saw three holes in her aura. Then we asked for assistance to strengthen her grounding and for help in healing any affinities that she held that kept these holes open in her aura and allowed others to connect in with her grounding.

She saw an image of a black ball in her right kidney. We took her awareness there, and she imagined love flowing through her body and out her hands. She held the ball, and it began to shrink, but it wasn’t going away without sharing something first. We asked what the source of the feeling there was. She saw herself as a newborn baby crying and crying. She felt the pain of this baby feeling so scared and so unsafe – the baby knew she needed another human to survive, but no one was coming for her.

She held the baby and surrounded it with love. It began to calm but was still very anxious and scared. She saw balls of fear that had filled up inside this baby, and she began to release them by brushing them away with her hand. We then asked for assistance from Mother Earth to help ground the baby’s energy into its body. A very bright and strong beam of light connected the baby’s sacrum and tailbone into the center of the earth. The balls of fear began dropping down the cord of light. V watched as the energy came back up to Earth’s surface and grew into beautiful plants.

The baby’s entire nervous system was finally calm, and we asked her to join V and fully merge with her energy in the present moment. The baby simply entered through the belly and integrated back in. My client felt a huge blanket of peace and calm and love through and surrounding her entire body.

We asked for light to come in to fill any holes in her energy field. We asked that the process continue so that full integration may be reached and that she may bring more peace into her day and life. Then we invited her awareness fully back into her body and the present moment.

She came out of the session continuing to feel blanketed in peace and love.

She explained to me after the session that after she was born, her mother had severe hemorrhaging, and her father had to drive immediately to another place to get blood to save her mother’s life. My client’s first physical experiences were those of fear and abandonment as her newborn body lay alone for hours in the hospital crying for help. She felt she had finally healed this subconscious experience.

Suddenly, other childhood traumas made sense – why she used to get so worked up over something seemingly “insignificant.” She also was able to see the imminent death of her friend’s father as an event of life and not as a traumatic experience that brought up her own fears of dying from infancy. She could talk about it with peace in her heart. Her eyes were both calmer and brighter. She was finally relaxed and so filled with gratitude.

Healing through balancing masculine and feminine energies

The last couple months have been calling me to find more balance. One of the ways this came through was in balancing the masculine and feminine energies.

For a long time, I shied away from these terms of masculinity and femininity. I had a bit of an aversion to them. I now know this was because I had an aversion to how masculinity and femininity were represented within my culture. I had to recognize this in order to begin to heal my own imbalances of masculine and feminine energy within me.

Let’s rewind about five years. As I was walking down my path of healing and spiritual growth, I began to accept that both masculine and feminine energies were important and necessary for balance.

At first the acceptance was mental. Like, “Yes, I get it, masculine and feminine qualities balance each other. That makes sense.” I read what people defined as masculine and feminine, yet I still had hang-ups on why each of their characteristics had to be attributed to either the masculine or feminine.

I didn’t like thinking that some qualities were inherently female while others were male. I was actually hung up on a power imbalance that I had witnessed between males and females in society.

Over time I realized masculine and feminine energies have nothing to do with male or female or power imbalances. It is simply energy.

Fast forward to the recent past: Once I realized that there is inherently an equal amount of power in both masculine and feminine energy, I was able to balance them more in my own life.

What really helped me was the following exercise: I began writing down what femininity and masculinity were, and what they weren’t.
What is femininity? Intuitive, soft, subtle, passive, receptive, nurturing…

What femininity is not: Manipulation, submission, temptress, meek, weak, powerless….

What is masculinity? Logic, focused, outward direction, active, boundaries…

What masculinity is not: Rigidity, power over someone, aggression, control over others, anger…
I looked on google images to get some adjectives to help me define what feminine and masculine energies were. Then I thought about it. Anything that came up that was less than loving, went in the ‘what masculinity/femininity is not’ definitions.

My definitions were much longer, and I spent about a week filling them in, but I wanted to share some examples here of what came up for me when I was exploring the topic in case you would like to do the same.

And the result? My definitions of masculinity and femininity and how I see their characteristics within myself and others don’t feel like such a weight anymore. They are clear, and I accept them. It simply feels better.

I’m not sure how yet, but I feel this is already helping me feel more balanced as a person, and I think it’s going to help my business too. I’ll keep you updated.

In love, light, and bliss,

Char